Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. You’ve captured something so important, that no one is perfect, neither parents nor children, and we’re all just trying to do our best. I know the words are said in anger, but it still hurts to hear. Remembering children react with anger as a defence mechanism makes it somewhat easier to beat.
Your empathy for your parents’ perspective is inspiring, and it’s a reminder that even in moments of conflict, growth and understanding is possible.
Parenting isn’t about perfection, its about connection, even when it’s hard.
I really appreciate you taking the time to read and share your perspective, it means a lot.
It must be really tough hearing such hurtful words from your daughter when the things you're doing for her are out of love 🥺 I'm not a parent, but I try to read books and hear stories about parenting because it helps me understand the perspective of my own parents. I know they love me and I love them too, but miscommunication and misunderstandings still happen and it's really heartbreaking 💔 When I get into a conflict with my parents, I try to remind myself that they're doing it out of love and it's not easy for them too. There's no such thing as a perfect parent, and I'm not a perfect child too. We're all just imperfect human beings trying to navigate the complexities of imperfect relationships. Our relationship may not be perfect, but at the end of the day, I'm just grateful that I have parents who love me and are thinking of what's best for me, even if we sometimes disagree
I related with this so much. I'm 19, & now I understand why parents intervention is required to guide their children, I regret misbehaving to my mom because no matter right or wrong, there must be a hierarchy in relationships like this that must be followed.
I grew up with a disabled parent, which meant that I was raised in a very hands off approach, as one of my parents couldn't fully be a parent. And while I loved the freedom as a child, growing into a teenager and eventually a young adult it manifested into a variety of issues, issues I'm now having to solve for myself in my mid-twenties. I say to the parents out there, as someone who was given a lot of freedom as a child, if you don't intervene while they're young they will have to work it out for themselves one day anyway, or suffer the consequences.
Absolutely! And I guess that's the challenging part, how much freedom is the right amount?
I'm also pretty confident it depends on the individual. I've seen people go through less and crumble, so I guess each person is unique with regard to how much support they require.
But you're right, kids will do what they want and some lessons need to be self taught.
Thank you Tony, I do my best, it's all we can do, and learn, from our mistakes and from people who set good examples, much like yourself! So thank you for that too!
Hi Alea,
Thank you so much for your thoughtful comment. You’ve captured something so important, that no one is perfect, neither parents nor children, and we’re all just trying to do our best. I know the words are said in anger, but it still hurts to hear. Remembering children react with anger as a defence mechanism makes it somewhat easier to beat.
Your empathy for your parents’ perspective is inspiring, and it’s a reminder that even in moments of conflict, growth and understanding is possible.
Parenting isn’t about perfection, its about connection, even when it’s hard.
I really appreciate you taking the time to read and share your perspective, it means a lot.
It must be really tough hearing such hurtful words from your daughter when the things you're doing for her are out of love 🥺 I'm not a parent, but I try to read books and hear stories about parenting because it helps me understand the perspective of my own parents. I know they love me and I love them too, but miscommunication and misunderstandings still happen and it's really heartbreaking 💔 When I get into a conflict with my parents, I try to remind myself that they're doing it out of love and it's not easy for them too. There's no such thing as a perfect parent, and I'm not a perfect child too. We're all just imperfect human beings trying to navigate the complexities of imperfect relationships. Our relationship may not be perfect, but at the end of the day, I'm just grateful that I have parents who love me and are thinking of what's best for me, even if we sometimes disagree
I related with this so much. I'm 19, & now I understand why parents intervention is required to guide their children, I regret misbehaving to my mom because no matter right or wrong, there must be a hierarchy in relationships like this that must be followed.
I grew up with a disabled parent, which meant that I was raised in a very hands off approach, as one of my parents couldn't fully be a parent. And while I loved the freedom as a child, growing into a teenager and eventually a young adult it manifested into a variety of issues, issues I'm now having to solve for myself in my mid-twenties. I say to the parents out there, as someone who was given a lot of freedom as a child, if you don't intervene while they're young they will have to work it out for themselves one day anyway, or suffer the consequences.
Thanks for sharing Brady, I'm sure you are the person that you are as a result. Stronger because of it? More resilient?
I do think that there is an element of having to learn lessons for yourself.
I remember my parents, both smokers, telling me how bad cigarettes were, instill ended up being a smoker for nearly 20 years.
I think kids will always think they know better and parents can only try their best, the best way they know how.
Thanks for reading.
Absolutely! And I guess that's the challenging part, how much freedom is the right amount?
I'm also pretty confident it depends on the individual. I've seen people go through less and crumble, so I guess each person is unique with regard to how much support they require.
But you're right, kids will do what they want and some lessons need to be self taught.
"That’s the deal as parents: when they hurt, you hurt. When they’re lost, you feel lost too."
This one got me. Nothing hurts more. It sounds like you are doing an amazing job as a parent and I applaud you my friend.
Thank you Tony, I do my best, it's all we can do, and learn, from our mistakes and from people who set good examples, much like yourself! So thank you for that too!